Vow Renewal/Commitment Ceremony Purpose

A vow renewal is an opportunity for a couple to renew the vows that they made to each other when they first married. It is a way to commemorate a love that has deepened or matured between a couple. A vow renewal ceremony is not meant to be a second wedding. Instead, it is meant to be a more personalized and intimate affair to be celebrated with close friends and family.

During a vow renewal ceremony, vows are exchanged and it is an opportunity for the couple to reflect on their relationship and be grateful for everything they’ve accomplished together up to this point. The couple can choose to exchange the same vows, or they can prepare new vows. During the ceremony, rings are also exchanged between the couple.

Outline of the Structure of the Ceremony

  • Announcements and Introductions.

  • The Welcome – I welcome family and friends.

  • Words about the event being observed - can be done in many ways and certainly something for discussion.

  • After discussions with you, I talk about vows and the commitments you are making and why,– what this ceremony means to you both and some brief words about you e.g. how you met, any stories you would like to share.

  • Reading – any poems/readings you may wish to use. Usually a family member or friend is asked to complete this section.

  • The Asking – you get the opportunity to say ‘I do’.

  • Vows – this is an opportunity for you to say custom vows. This is also the section where you will exchange rings.

  • The Pronouncing – This is a very important part of the ceremony as this is where I pronounce you as ‘husband and wife’ (insert other pronouncements as per couple’s wishes).

  • Signing of the certificates – we can construct these.

  • Optional Ritual Section – you may wish to include any cultural or family ritual in this section of the ceremony. We can discuss this and agree.

  • Conclusion – I will conclude the ceremony and announce any further details you wish your guests to know.

  • Summing up or Blessing – I will close with a few words to send you on your way.

  • Congratulations and presentation to family and friends.

  • Recessional – it is at this point, that you will leave the ceremony.

Things I need to know about you both

 

1.  Where did you meet?
2.  How long have you been together?
3.  What did you do on your first date?
4.  Did you feel this was love at first sight?
5.  How did your families feel when they first met you?
6.  How do they feel about your upcoming vow renewal?
7.  Who do you want to be included in the ceremony? Why do you want them included?
8.  Do you have any funny stories about your relationship over the time you have been together?
9.  What is something that you might like to share with the guests that they may not know?
10.  Did you want to include a theme for your ceremony?  If so, what are your thoughts?